#Conditional vs unconditional love how to

It wants the very best for us and doesn’t encourage co-dependency.

It is patient, consistent and forgiving, being there for us on bad days as well as good and when we really make a mess of things. It does not seek to control our life choices. It comes with no expectations about how we should think or how we should change to meet someone else’s needs and desires. It is other-centered for the other’s sake, a gift love. This love comes from the heart and is freely given. We are loved for the very essence of who we are, with all of our strengths and weaknesses, shortcomings, failures, and mistakes. To be loved unconditionally means to be accepted fully for who we are, without conditions. When I allowed myself to acknowledge my own desperate need for unconditional love, I realized that other people have the same need and that we can do this for each other: we can love each other the way we wish to be loved. If I can love my son and grandson unconditionally, it seemed eminently doable to be able to extend that same love to other human beings. When I held my new grandson in my arms and gazed into his eyes, it brought back fond memories of nursing my son and the feelings of unconditional love that I have for him.

#Conditional vs unconditional love how to

Explaining how to love is different from actually experiencing it. It soon became apparent that this was more than an intellectual challenge. Not one to avoid big challenges, I was hooked on trying to figure out how this could be achieved. wrote near the very end of his last book that developing an all-embracing and unconditional love for all people was an absolute necessity for human survival. When I began my quest to understand unconditional love, it was for the loftiest of goals.